September is Suicide Prevention and Awareness Month
September is Suicide Prevention and Awareness Month. Somehow, it’s fitting that this month also commemorates the anniversary of the 9/11 terrorist attacks; because, in discussing suicidal thoughts and ideation, I always use the illustration of the many individuals who tragically jumped from the World Trade Center towers to escape being burned alive when fires resulting from the plane crashes turned the interior of the buildings into an unbearable inferno. While in that case, the New York City medical examiner’s office officially classified those deaths as being caused by the attacks and not suicide, the reason nearly 50,000 people commit suicide in the United States each year isn’t much different than the reason these 9/11 attack victims jumped—the fire is just coming from the inside instead of the outside. No one who had gone to work that morning in the World Trade Center likely had any previous desire to jump out of the building, or, as a split-second decision forced their feet from a window ledge, felt that jumping was a “good” choice to make. They simply thought it was better than the alternative. Conditions and circumstances had changed so drastically for them in an instant, due to forces completely outside of their control and beyond their ability to change; they assessed that there was no hope for survival and chose the lesser of two evils. The main difference between this example and the vast majority of suicide victims is that while, in the case of the World Trade Center, victims were tragically correct in their assessment that there was truly no escape possible for them, the perceived impossibility of escape for those suffering from the mental, emotional, and spiritual fires of depression and anguish is merely an insidious and deadly illusion. Those suffering in a state of severe depression and anxiety also tend to inadvertently delude themselves into thinking that they cannot withstand the fire. In this way, similarities exist between those who follow through on suicidal ideation with an attempt, and those who struggle with substance use disorder, which, unless overcome by sustainable recovery, can ultimately end in a process of gradual and unintentional suicide of sorts by the victim. No one endeavors to become an addict; disordered use of substances results from reliance on them as a coping mechanism to numb or escape feelings and physical sensations resulting from trauma that are persistent and unbearable. The key difference here is in the physiological aspect of substance use disorder, which causes chemical changes to the brain over time and leaves victims vulnerable, if deprived of their coping mechanism, to both agonizing sensations of withdrawal and to facing the resurgence in awareness of the original trauma wound which spawned the disorder in the first place. The feeling or sensation is so uncomfortable and so unbearable that the person with substance use disorder will do absolutely anything (often manifesting in criminal behavior or acts of self-sabotage that seem inexplicable to outside observers) to make it go away. In a similar way, suicide often appears to make no sense to outside observers (how many rich and famous people who seemed to have had it all have ended their lives?); but, in the victim’s perspective, it was a choice that was seen as the only option for making the unbearable feeling or sensation go away. This is a conclusion that is come to in the victim’s mind sometimes suddenly, upon a traumatic loss of a loved one or a relationship, or sometimes gradually, the culmination of years of persistent sadness or hopelessness. Sometimes the catalyst is external—the basis of reality itself is undermined by sudden and drastic change of life circumstances causing grief and devastation that seems insurmountable; and sometimes it’s more internal—feelings of guilt, shame, regret, or unworthiness fatally undermine one’s sense of self to the point that the victim actually believes that the world would be better off without him or her. In either case, suicide is an act of desperation, of seeking relief from pain, which is perceived by the victim as an unbearable fire. For the suicidal person, it is only when that primal yet ultimately self-sabotaging instinct to escape the burning is overridden by some internal or external intervention, or the urge is at least delayed (sometimes the best one can seem to do is delay) that it is discovered that the flames may indeed be extremely uncomfortable; but they are not unbearable after all. Continuing to choose life, to choose hope, or to at least choose to believe in hope, sometimes only on a moment-by-moment basis, tends to open up doors that we did not even realize were there—doors that lead to cooler passages where we are not quite so engulfed in the flames, and perhaps even one that allows us, eventually, to escape the fire completely. The first step is always to seek help. This can be difficult for some, due to shame, stigma, and the fear of being judged by others. However, it’s OK and actually helpful to let the right kind of fear guide the decision to seek help in these circumstances. It’s natural for the threat of losing something valuable to inspire fear, and your life is extremely valuable--it’s more valuable than the opinions of other people. If you have experienced suicidal thoughts or ideation, whether or not this included planning or any attempt, it’s crucial to tell someone. The best place to start is often a peer support group, which offers a non-judgmental environment in which honesty is encouraged and pretending to be OK is not. Your pain is very real and your story matters. Your life is valuable. All of these are true, and peer support can help you discover the truth—and, that by choosing life and hope, moment by moment, discover that you may just be able to walk through fire. Sarah Drummond Depression, Anxiety, and Suicidal Ideation Peer Support Group Leader Malorie’s Place Maiden, NC
When Safety Feels Distant: Addressing Gun Violence and Community Healing Malorie’s Place Blog
When Safety Feels Distant: Addressing Gun Violence and Community Healing Malorie’s Place Blog 6/3/25 At Malorie’s Place, we walk alongside families facing life’s deepest wounds—grief, addiction, trauma, and recovery. In recent years, a new layer of fear and loss has shaken the communities we serve: the growing epidemic of gun violence. Whether it’s a child afraid to go to school, a parent mourning the loss of a loved one, or a community reeling from a senseless act of violence, gun-related trauma leaves deep emotional and psychological scars. For those already battling depression, grief, or anxiety, this fear can compound feelings of hopelessness and insecurity. The Emotional Toll of Gun Violence Gun violence doesn’t just make headlines—it changes lives forever. Survivors often suffer from PTSD, sleep disturbances, and chronic anxiety. Children exposed to violence may experience behavioral changes, learning challenges, and emotional instability. We see it firsthand at Malorie’s Place—young people who are afraid to speak, to walk outside, or to trust. Families impacted by violence often struggle with complex grief. They are left asking “Why?” while trying to rebuild trust and reclaim some sense of normalcy. Our goal is to stand in that space with them—not with easy answers, but with open arms, trauma-informed care, and the tools for healing. Creating Safer Communities, Together While we can’t undo every tragedy, we believe in creating spaces that foster prevention, awareness, and safety. Here’s how Malorie’s Place is stepping into that work: Education & Dialogue: Through small groups and community sessions—including our new OK Maiden initiative—we’re opening up safe, stigma-free discussions about trauma, gun violence, and how we protect one another. Support for Survivors: Our counseling network, peer groups, and recovery-focused programs provide emotional support to those impacted by gun violence and loss. Programs for Youth: Initiatives like Junior Warriors build resilience in children by teaching emotional regulation, empathy, and healthy coping strategies in a world that can feel unpredictable and unsafe. Advocacy & Awareness: We support responsible gun ownership and community-led safety efforts. This includes promoting secure firearm storage, conflict resolution skills, and mental health resources for families. What You Can Do 1. Secure firearms in your home using lockboxes or gun safes. 2. Talk to your children—even young ones—about safety and their feelings. 3. Advocate for common-sense policies in your local schools and communities. 4. Support those grieving—not with clichés, but with presence, compassion, and patience. 5. Join the conversation. Our blog, podcast, and community events are safe places to speak out and connect with others who care deeply about healing and change. Healing Begins with Us Gun violence is not just a political issue—it is a human issue. And every person lost is someone’s child, parent, friend, or neighbor. At Malorie’s Place, we believe in the power of empathy and education to spark lasting change. Together, we can build safer, more compassionate communities where every person feels protected, valued, and heard. If you or someone you love has been impacted by gun violence, please reach out. We’re here—for counseling, connection, and hope. Let’s work together to bring healing where it’s needed most. Love Leslie Hulbert Executive Director Malorie’s Place (828) 216-5046
Healing Begins Young: The Power of Junior Warriors
At Malorie’s Place, we know that mental health struggles don’t wait until adulthood—they can begin in childhood. That’s why we created Junior Warriors, a biweekly program designed to support K–5th grade children who are facing emotional, social, and developmental challenges. Junior Warriors isn’t just about activities—it’s about healing hearts early and giving our youngest community members the tools they need to grow strong, confident, and drug-free. What Healing Looks Like for Children Children often carry unspoken burdens: the stress of family conflict, the grief of loss, the trauma of neglect or abuse, or simply the overwhelming pressure of “not fitting in.” Left unaddressed, these early wounds can shape their future. Junior Warriors provides a safe, nurturing environment where children can express themselves, learn healthy coping skills, and build relationships with trusted adults. Support, Structure, and Strength Each session of Junior Warriors is thoughtfully structured to promote healing through: Mentorship – Positive role models guide children through life lessons in resilience, kindness, and self-worth. Therapeutic Play & Activities – We use art, storytelling, and games as gentle, age-appropriate methods for emotional expression. Community Building – Children form connections with peers who understand what it feels like to be different, hurt, or afraid. Life Skills & Prevention – We teach the value of making healthy choices, resisting peer pressure, and standing up against bullying and drugs. Healing the Whole Family Junior Warriors is more than a children’s program—it’s a family movement. We engage parents, educators, and caregivers in the healing process through open communication, community events, and access to additional resources. Because when a child begins to heal, their whole environment shifts. Why It Matters The earlier we help children face and process their emotions, the more likely they are to grow into mentally healthy adults. At Malorie’s Place, we believe that every child deserves a chance to feel safe, heard, and valued—and that healing, no matter how small, can start with just one brave step. If you know a child who might benefit from Junior Warriors, we invite you to connect with us. Together, let’s raise a generation of resilient, compassionate, and hopeful young warrior's.
Calming the Storm: How Essential Oils Support Mind, Body & Soul in Healing from Trauma, Grief, Depression & Anxiety By Malorie’s Place 4/6/2025
Life is a journey filled with highs and lows—and sometimes, those lows can be incredibly heavy. At Malorie’s Place, we walk alongside individuals facing trauma, grief, depression, and anxiety. While counseling, support groups, and recovery resources are core to what we do, we also embrace natural tools that support holistic healing—like the powerful world of essential oils. Let’s explore how essential oils can help restore balance to the mind, body, and soul during life’s most difficult seasons. 1. For the Mind: Calming Racing Thoughts & Supporting Focus Lavender – Known as the “mother” of all essential oils, lavender has powerful calming properties. It soothes the nervous system, eases anxious thoughts, and promotes restful sleep—key elements for anyone working through trauma or depression. Peppermint – Uplifting and invigorating, peppermint can help combat mental fatigue, increase focus, and reduce tension headaches brought on by stress or emotional overwhelm. Frankincense – Often used in spiritual rituals, frankincense calms the mind and promotes clarity. It supports deep breathing and emotional release, helping you process grief with a quiet, grounded strength. 2. For the Body: Easing Physical Manifestations of Emotional Pain Eucalyptus – A powerhouse for the respiratory system, eucalyptus opens up breathing pathways, symbolically and physically helping you “breathe again” when grief or anxiety feels suffocating. Chamomile – Gentle and nurturing, chamomile helps soothe muscle tension and stomach discomfort linked to emotional distress. It’s especially helpful for those struggling with anxiety or PTSD. Clary Sage – This oil is known to balance hormones and promote relaxation. It’s especially helpful for women processing trauma or emotional imbalance, providing a natural way to release stored tension in the body. 3. For the Soul: Nurturing Emotional Healing & Spiritual Peace Ylang Ylang – This sweet floral oil supports emotional balance and opens the heart. It helps ease panic attacks and encourages feelings of joy, peace, and emotional connection. Bergamot – Often called “sunshine in a bottle,” bergamot can lift the spirit during times of grief and sadness. It promotes self-acceptance and emotional release while supporting confidence and courage. Sandalwood – A deeply grounding oil, sandalwood is ideal for meditation and spiritual reflection. It can help connect you to your inner self, making it easier to process pain and seek deeper healing. How to Use Essential Oils for Emotional Healing Diffusion: Add 5–10 drops of your chosen oil to a diffuser and let the aroma gently fill your space. Topical Application: Dilute oils with a carrier oil (like coconut or jojoba) and apply to pulse points (wrists, temples, back of the neck). Bath Rituals: Add a few drops to a warm bath with Epsom salts for a deeply calming experience. Inhalation: Place a drop in your hands, rub together, and inhale slowly during a moment of anxiety or reflection. A Gentle Reminder Essential oils are not a cure—but they are a beautiful, natural companion on the healing journey. At Malorie’s Place, we honor the sacredness of each person’s path and believe in empowering the whole person: mind, body, and soul. If you're navigating trauma, grief, depression, or anxiety, you are not alone. Whether you're attending a group session, walking through our Serenity Release Peer Support Groups, or simply looking for peace at home—know that you’re supported. Want to learn more? Join one of our upcoming wellness workshops or stop by Malorie’s Place for personalized guidance on essential oils, mindfulness, and healing through community. The Gathering/OK Maiden Workshop on Essential oils May 30th 10:00-11:30 446 S Main Ave Maiden Because healing doesn’t have to happen alone. And sometimes, it smells like lavender. Love Leslie Malorie’s Place Executive Director
Chain Breakers: Empowering Junior Warriors for a Brighter Future Blog Malorie’s Place 2/20/25
Chain Breakers: Empowering Junior Warriors for a Brighter Future Blog Malorie’s Place 2/20/25 At Malorie’s Place, we believe that every child deserves the tools, support, and encouragement to break free from cycles of hardship and step into a future filled with hope and opportunity. That’s why Junior Warriors exist—to provide K-5th grade children facing emotional, social, and developmental challenges with a safe space to build resilience, confidence, and a strong foundation for a drug-free life. In our new "Chain Breakers" blog series, we’ll explore how Junior Warriors can break through barriers and overcome obstacles, one empowering step at a time. 1. Breaking the Chains of Fear: Helping Kids Build Confidence Fear can hold children back from reaching their full potential. In this post, we’ll discuss how Junior Warriors fosters courage through mentorship, peer support, and interactive activities that help kids step out of their comfort zones. 2. Breaking the Chains of Negative Influences: Encouraging Positive Choices With so many outside pressures, children need guidance to make healthy, drug-free decisions. This post will highlight our proactive approach to teaching kids about self-worth, personal responsibility, and making good choices. 3. Breaking the Chains of Isolation: Building a Supportive Community Loneliness can be overwhelming for young children facing emotional challenges. We’ll share stories of connection, friendship, and how Junior Warriors creates a network of support that ensures no child feels alone. 4. Breaking the Chains of Self-Doubt: Fostering a Growth Mindset Children often struggle with feelings of inadequacy. This post will focus on empowering kids with the belief that they are capable, strong, and worthy—helping them replace self-doubt with self-assurance. 5. Breaking the Chains of Stress: Mindfulness for Young Warriors Even children experience stress and anxiety. In this post, we’ll explore simple mindfulness techniques, relaxation exercises, and fun activities that help children manage their emotions and build inner strength. 6. Breaking the Chains of Trauma: Healing Through Play and Expression Trauma can impact a child’s ability to thrive. We’ll highlight how creative expression, play therapy, and supportive counseling at Junior Warriors help children process emotions and find healing. 7. Breaking the Chains of Hopelessness: Inspiring the Next Generation Every child deserves to dream big. This post will share success stories from Junior Warriors, showing how resilience, encouragement, and community support can shape a brighter future. Contact Malorie’s Place about our Junior Warriors Group (K-5th graders) 828-216-5046
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