Grief-Grateful: Finding Light in the Darkness This Holiday Season
By Malorie’s Place The holiday season is a time when many feel a mix of joy, togetherness, and hope. Yet, for those carrying the weight of grief, this time of year can also bring an overwhelming sense of loss and loneliness. At Malorie’s Place, we understand the complexity of these emotions and want to share a different perspective this season: grief gratitude. What is grief gratitude? It’s not about diminishing your pain or forcing positivity. Instead, it’s about honoring the love behind the loss, acknowledging the lessons learned through pain, and allowing space for gratitude to coexist with grief. The Duality of Grief and Gratitude Grief often feels like a thief, robbing us of the people, moments, and experiences we hold dear. But it can also be a teacher. It reminds us of how deeply we’ve loved, how fully we’ve lived, and how much we still have to give. Gratitude, even in small doses, can help soften the sharp edges of grief. It's about finding light in the darkness, no matter how dim it may seem. Ways to Practice Grief Gratitude 1. Remember With Love Take time to honor the person or experience you’re grieving. Light a candle, look through photos, or share a favorite memory with loved ones. Let these acts of remembrance remind you of the joy they brought to your life. 2. Seek Connection Grief can be isolating, but you’re not alone. Lean on friends, family, or support groups to share your feelings. At Malorie’s Place, we offer safe spaces, like the Serenity Release Center, where you can let go of emotions and feel supported. 3. Give Back Helping others can be a powerful way to channel your grief. Volunteer at a shelter, donate to a cause that matters to you, or create something special in honor of your loved one. Gratitude often grows when we give to others. 4. Embrace Small Joys Gratitude doesn’t have to be grand. It can be as simple as appreciating a warm cup of coffee, a beautiful sunrise, or the hug of a child. Small moments of peace can help you navigate this challenging season. 5. Allow Yourself to Feel Grief gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring your pain. It’s okay to cry, to miss someone, to feel anger or sadness. Gratitude doesn’t erase grief; it offers a way to coexist with it. A Grief-Grateful Challenge This holiday season, we invite you to start a simple practice: Each day, write down one thing you’re grateful for and one memory or feeling tied to your grief. Over time, this practice can create space for healing and hope. We’re Here for You At Malorie’s Place, we walk alongside individuals and families navigating grief, depression, and loss. Through Peer Support Groups, training, and our safe spaces, we’re here to help you find light—even in the darkest moments. As you move through this season, remember that it’s okay to feel the weight of your grief. But it’s also okay to hold onto gratitude for the love, memories, and strength that grief has given you. Together, we can make this season one of healing and hope. From all of us at Malorie’s Place, we wish you peace and comfort this holiday season. Looking for support? Visit Malorie’s Place to explore our resources, events, and counseling options. Let’s face grief together.
Navigating the Holidays After Trauma: Finding Peace and Support
Malorie’s Place Blog Navigating the Holidays After Trauma: Finding Peace and Support The holiday season is often seen as a time of joy, family gatherings, and celebration. But for many, especially those who have experienced trauma, the holidays can bring a complex mix of emotions and challenges. At Malorie’s Place, we understand that trauma doesn’t take a break during the holiday season—and we’re here to provide the support and understanding needed to navigate this time with compassion and resilience. Why the Holidays Can Be Difficult After Trauma For individuals who’ve faced grief, loss, addiction, or abuse, the holiday season can magnify feelings of loneliness, anxiety, or even shame. The pressure to feel joyful and “put together” can be overwhelming, especially when memories or past experiences bring unresolved emotions to the surface. Holiday traditions, family dynamics, and crowded social gatherings may act as reminders, reopening old wounds and making it difficult to feel at ease. Common Holiday Triggers for Trauma Survivors Family Gatherings: Interactions with family members can be complex, especially if trauma originated within the family. Revisiting these relationships can be painful and unsettling. Social Expectations: Holidays often come with high expectations for happiness and social interaction. For trauma survivors, this can lead to feelings of inadequacy, isolation, or guilt if they don’t feel ready to participate. Anniversaries and Reminders: Holidays might coincide with anniversaries of loss or other significant life events, amplifying the weight of grief or other intense emotions. Financial Pressures: The pressure to buy gifts, travel, or host gatherings can add an additional layer of stress, especially for those dealing with financial insecurity. How to Cope: Practical Tips for the Holiday Season Here are some strategies to help navigate the holiday season if you or someone you care about is dealing with the effects of trauma: 1. Set Boundaries and Prioritize Your Well-Being It’s okay to say “no” to events or gatherings that feel too overwhelming. Prioritize self-care, and give yourself permission to step back if you need time alone. 2. Create New Traditions Sometimes, starting new traditions can bring comfort and peace. Whether it’s a quiet night with a book, volunteering, or spending time with close friends, find activities that make you feel grounded and safe. 3. Reach Out for Support If you're struggling, remember you’re not alone. Whether it’s connecting with a therapist, attending a support group, or leaning on friends, reaching out for support can make a significant difference. 4. Practice Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques When feelings of anxiety or sadness arise, try grounding techniques to bring yourself back to the present. Breathing exercises, journaling, or going for a walk in nature can help manage overwhelming thoughts and emotions. 5. Focus on Small Joys The holidays don’t need to be filled with grand gestures or celebrations. Finding small moments of joy—like lighting a candle, enjoying a warm drink, or listening to soothing music—can bring comfort and connection without added pressure. How Malorie’s Place Can Support You This Holiday Season At Malorie’s Place, we’re dedicated to supporting those who are navigating trauma, grief, and loss—during the holidays and throughout the year. Our services, including counseling, workshops, and a safe space at our Peer Supprt Groups, we are here to help you find the tools you need to manage your emotions and find peace. We understand that healing takes time, and we’re here to walk with you on your journey, one day at a time. Remember, You’re Not Alone The holidays may bring their own challenges, but remember that you’re not alone. With a supportive community, self-compassion, and a little planning, it’s possible to find moments of peace and even joy. If you or someone you love is struggling this holiday season, please reach out to us at Malorie’s Place. Let’s work together to make this season a time of hope, healing, and support. Love Leslie CEO Malorie’s Place 828-216-5046 446 S Main Ave Maiden
How Fall Affects Your State of Mind
Malorie’s Place Blog 11/3/2024 As the leaves begin to change and the days grow shorter, we often find ourselves experiencing shifts in our moods and energy levels. Fall brings with it a unique atmosphere — one filled with beautiful scenery and cooler weather, but also the reminder that winter is on its way. At Malorie’s Place, we understand how this seasonal transition can impact your mental well-being, and we’re here to help you navigate these changes with insight and support. The Connection Between Fall and Mental Health The seasonal change from summer to fall is more than just a shift in temperature. Many people feel a psychological impact as the daylight hours shorten and the routine of school or work intensifies. Here are a few common ways fall can influence your state of mind: 1. Decreased Daylight and Energy Levels The reduction in sunlight affects the brain’s production of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that plays a crucial role in mood regulation. Less sunlight can lead to decreased serotonin levels, which may contribute to feelings of sadness or lethargy. This change is especially noticeable for people who experience Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) or other forms of seasonal depression. 2. Feelings of Nostalgia and Reflection Fall can often bring up feelings of nostalgia. The changing colors and crisp air remind us of past seasons and can make us reflect on our own lives, sometimes triggering emotions tied to memories or life events. While this reflection can be positive, it can also lead to feelings of melancholy or loneliness. 3. Pressure and Expectations As the year begins to wind down, there can be an unspoken pressure to achieve any remaining goals set at the beginning of the year. This added stress can sometimes cause anxiety or self-doubt, making fall a challenging time for those who are already managing mental health concerns. Strategies to Support Your Mental Health This Fall While the changing season can be challenging, there are strategies you can use to help keep your mental health in check. Here are a few ways to embrace fall with a positive mindset: 1. Maximize Exposure to Natural Light Even if sunlight is scarce, getting outside during the daylight hours can help maintain your serotonin levels. Consider taking walks or spending time in nature to lift your mood and maintain energy levels. 2. Create a Cozy and Positive Environment As the weather cools down, it’s a perfect time to make your space feel warm and inviting. Incorporate cozy blankets, warm lighting, and seasonal scents that bring you comfort and joy. These small touches can make a big difference in creating a safe, calming environment that supports your well-being. 3. Connect with Others It’s important to stay connected, especially during the colder months when we may be tempted to withdraw. Reach out to friends, family, or join support groups where you can share your thoughts and feelings. Here at Malorie’s Place, our peer support groups offer a safe space for connection, reflection, and healing. 4. Practice Self-Compassion Remember that it’s okay to slow down and take time for yourself. The shift in seasons can be a good opportunity to reassess your goals, reflect on your progress, and celebrate even the smallest achievements. Embrace this time as an opportunity for self-care. Let Malorie’s Place Support You Through the Season Fall is a time of change and transition, and we understand how challenging it can be to manage these shifts in mood and energy. Malorie’s Place is here to support you with resources, compassion, and a community that truly understands. Whether you’re looking for peer support groups, one-on-one counseling, or simply a safe space to feel understood, we’re here for you every step of the way. As the leaves fall, let go of any pressures or expectations holding you back. Embrace this season as a time of growth, reflection, and healing. Come visit us at Malorie’s Place and find the support you need for this season and beyond. Love Leslie
Maloire’s Place Bog 10/13/24 Rest, Relax, Reflect, Recharge: A Path to a Better You
In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel like we’re always on the go, constantly juggling responsibilities and pushing ourselves to the limit. But at Malorie’s Place, we understand the importance of taking a step back to prioritize your well-being. When life feels overwhelming, it’s essential to create space for yourself to rest, relax, reflect, and recharge. Rest: Renew Your Energy Rest isn’t just about sleep; it’s about giving your mind and body a break. Whether it’s taking a short nap, practicing mindfulness, or simply doing nothing for a few moments, rest allows your body to heal and reset. It’s in these moments of stillness that your energy is restored, making it easier to face the challenges ahead. Relax: Let Go of Tension Relaxation is key to reducing stress and tension. It’s about releasing the pressure that builds up from daily life. Activities like deep breathing, yoga, or spending time in nature can help your mind and body to relax. When you allow yourself to unwind, you create a sense of peace and calm, which can lead to better focus, improved mood, and overall well-being. Reflect: Gain Clarity Reflection is an important step in personal growth. By taking time to look inward, you gain clarity about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Reflection allows you to learn from the past and make better decisions moving forward. Journaling, meditating, or simply sitting in quiet contemplation can help you process emotions and discover what truly matters to you. Recharge: Rebuild Your Strength Recharging is the act of replenishing your mental, emotional, and physical energy. Just like a battery, we all need to recharge to function at our best. This can be through activities that bring you joy, whether it’s spending time with loved ones, pursuing a hobby, or engaging in self-care practices like a soothing bath or reading a book. When you recharge, you rebuild your strength to take on whatever comes your way. Why It Matters At Malorie’s Place, we support individuals and families facing the challenges of addiction, grief, Suicidal Ideations, and trauma. We encourage everyone to prioritize self-care, because when you take care of yourself, you are better equipped to care for others. Resting, relaxing, reflecting, and recharging aren’t just luxuries—they’re essential steps on the path to healing and living a more fulfilling life. Remember, taking time for yourself isn’t selfish. It’s an investment in a better, healthier you. Start today—rest, relax, reflect, and recharge. At Malorie’s Place, we’re here to support your journey to well-being. Contact us to learn more about our services and how we can help you or your loved ones thrive. Call or Text at: 828-216-5046 446 S Main Ave Maiden #SelfCare #MentalHealth #Rest #Reflect #Recharge #HealingJourney
Let’s Talk Depression and how the effects of Fall Season can have on you and How to shake off those chains
Maloirie’s Place Weekly Blog 9/6/24
Let’s Talk Depression and how the effects of Fall Season can have on you and How to shake off those chains
Is there such a thing that the change of season and going into Fall can change your moods and bring on Depression? I googled this and this is what i found:
Seasonal changes can affect mental health in a number of ways, including: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) A type of depression that can occur during certain seasons, usually fall or winter. Symptoms include feelings of depression, tiredness, or low energy.
SAD is thought to be caused by a chemical change in the brain due to shorter days and less daylight. Light therapy and antidepressants can help treat SAD. Family dynamics
The holiday season can trigger grief, guilt, and other painful emotions for people who have lost family, or who have disagreements with family members. New routines Changes in daily habits and routines can be accompanied by big emotions. It's important to communicate your abilities and challenges, and to be confident in your answers.
Connecting with the earth Eating seasonally and getting outside can help you connect more deeply with the earth. Embracing the season Embracing the season with intention and care can help you enjoy its benefits while maintaining your mental and emotional well-being. Falls can impact mental health in a number of ways, including:
Fear of falling A psychological reaction to a fall that can lead to anxiety, loss of confidence, and isolation. This can cause people to be less active, which can increase the risk of further falls. Fear of falling can also lead to depression and agoraphobia. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) In rare cases, a fall can be traumatic enough to cause PTSD. Symptoms include flashbacks and nightmares that cause people to relive the fear, helplessness, and panic they felt during the fall.
Depressive symptoms Falls have been linked to higher levels of depressive symptoms in older adults. Social isolation Falls can lead to a reduction in social participation and social functioning. People who fall may be less likely to participate in social activities. Many people are struggling with their mental health.
Those living a life of recovery and sobriety are especially at risk for mental health issues during this period. (Fall and How It Affects Our Mental Health) In this article they give tips on how to help with SAD Seasonal Affective Disorder
These are the most common symptoms of SAD: Increased sleep and daytime drowsiness Loss of interest and pleasure in activities formerly enjoyed Social withdrawal and increased sensitivity to rejection Grouchiness and anxiety Feelings of guilt and hopelessness Excessive tiredness (fatigue) Decreased sex drive Decreased ability to focus Trouble thinking clearly Increased appetite, especially for sweets and carbohydrates Weight gain Physical problems, such as headaches
Here are some helpful tips to get you through this season of time. To uplift your mood and health, Stay on a good sleep schedule, Exercise, have a support system, light therapy, & good diet. Get a group of friends together, go out to lunch, or dinners, movies, and have some great laughs.
I know I used to not like Fall. I still don't like Winter because I don't like the cold. I’m from upstate NY and winters were brutal there snow from October to mothers day. Winters were rough being gray all the time. Even when I would have bouts of Depression I still loved having light coming into my house and not having blinds or closing my curtains. Pull open the curtains, and let the sun light in you will see a big difference in your mood.
Go out play in the leaves, smell them kick them throw them up in the air as if you were a child again
Fall into Hope: Shedding the weight of Depression at Malorie’s Place If you are struggling with this please reach out to Malorie’s Place.
We would love for you to come and relax in our Reflection Alcove, bring a book, turn oils on, have a foot soak or a foot massage. The alcove is available for 1 hour at a time. We have a Depression/Anxiety/Suicide Peer support Group where a bunch of ladies get together eat, talk, and help each other out.
“You can’t fight this battle alone” Malorie Deal 2017
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